I have few recollections of gender inequality during my childhood. My peers and I shared a common goal: play and have fun! Academically, I saw no difference between boys and girls because for every very smart boy there was a very smart girl. Sports teams were coed and the boys and girls were athletic equals. In choir the boys and girls were generally sopranos.
During my preteen years boy and girls started seeming more different. The sports teams became more single gendered, and fewer boys remained as sopranos in church choir. However, I found the voice differences pleasing. I enjoyed hearing harmonies in music and singing descants over the lower voices. Everyone in choir took their part very seriously, and I never noticed a difference in the way that boys versus girls acted.
In Middle School I began playing in concert band. I was a flutist, and the flute section was all female. The trombones sat behind us, and they were mostly male. The trombone section was rambunctious. They like to show off just how loud their instruments could be. I thought they were too loud when they were playing our regular pieces, so I made a point to close to first chair, which let me sit further away.
There was one male flutist in our school. He was very good, so he played in symphonic band. I was only in concert band, so I did not know him very well. I do know that he was made fun of for his instrument.
In Middle School, the music teacher Dr. Rhoden, would feed the hungry male athletes, and some of them joined chorus. The class wasn’t taken seriously partly because some people thought of it as snack time. Also, the boys and girls were distracted by each other. This caused Dr. Rhoden to rant a lot. He’d make up funny songs on the piano about how we prefer to talk than to sing.
I moved to mountains the year I entered high school, and the choir was set up differently. There were three choirs. Treble choir for freshman girls, general chorus for freshman boys or girls, and show choir for most students who were sophomores or older. Treble choir was a big step up from general chorus. We were taken seriously. I think this says something about how freshman boys were perceived at my high school. I think that most were more interested in sports or already in band. Anyway I got the feeling freshman boys from the small town were not serious enough or good enough to sing in a choir.
The next year I made it to show choir. We shouldn’t have been called show choir because there was almost no dancing, but we usually earned superiors singing traditional choral pieces. Choir in high school was interesting. I think that the girls acted a little bit crazier because of the boys, and there was way too much talking
At Converse there is also a lot of talking. I have found that talking is a stereotype of women that is often true. This is obvious in chorale: a class of women. As for pursuing music in an all women’s college – I find this very normal. Since I am used to singing individually, it is easy for me to make music without men. However, sometimes I wish there were men here so we could sing duets.